what are the outcomes and benefits of psychotherapy?

  • Increased awareness of one’s own and others emotional lives
  • Enhanced quality of relationships, with the self and others
  • Improved feelings of self-esteem and self-efficacy
  • Ability to accept and live with challenging emotions
  • Ability to recognize and articulate hurdles in life
  • Improved health, well-being and sleep

I've never heard of existential psychotherapy, can you explain more?

Time and freedom restraints we were blissfully unaware of before are now in effect. Along with these can come feelings of isolation and meaninglessness. This awareness creates anxiety and this is caused by the knowledge that our validation must come from within and not from others.

However, one may feel unable to come to terms with the anxiety of how they perceive themselves in the world. If this is the case the existential therapist can assist the client in accepting these feelings as opposed to the client battling to change their feelings. Many people may be unaware that they can actually exercise a choice over these feelings.

Unlike other therapies, the existential psychotherapist is generally not concerned with the client’s past but instead places the emphasis squarely on the choices the client has the power to make in the present and for the future. The role of the counsellor is to facilitate self-discovery, while supporting and validating a client’s emotional experience. The emphasis is upon a goal of healing and personal development, rather than seeking a remedy or fixing a problem.

What are your therapeutic approaches and methodologies?

  • Art Therapy
  • Clinical Supervision and Qualified
  • Cognitive Behavioural (CBT)
  • Existential Therapy
  • Family / Marital
  • Family Systems
  • Jungian
  • Narrative
  • Parent-Child Interaction (PCIT)
  • Person-Centred
  • Play Therapy
  • Psychobiological Approach Couple Therapy
  • Psychodynamic
  • Sandplay
  • Strength-Based
  • Trauma Focused

What are the reasons for men to seek therapy?

Men enter our consulting rooms for many reasons:

  • Communication problems in their relationships
  • Commitment to their partner
  • Intimacy difficulties
  • Coping with stress
  • Managing anxiety
  • Experiencing depression
  • Grief and Loss
  • Anger
  • Conflict
  • Addictions – alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, pornography, internet
  • Parenting
  • Career
  • Loneliness and Isolation

What will happen in the first session?

You do not need to worry about coming prepared with what to say in the first session. Just come with an open mind and your therapist will guide you through the process.

We will explore what led you to seek counselling and what you hope to change in your life. Your therapist will ask you about your current concerns and past experiences, to enable us to get to know you and determine what counselling approach might be most helpful for you. We may also ask you to complete one or more questionnaires to help us better understand your issues. You have control over what information you choose to share, and the pace at which you share. Our priority is creating an environment in which you feel safe and empowered.

By the end of the first session we usually will have agreed on some counselling goals, and outlined a plan for achieving these. Your therapist will also give you one or more strategies to start practicing at home. We believe that it is very important for you to have something tangible to take away so that you can start making practical changes in your life right from the first session.

How much does psychotherapy cost?

We charge $180 per session, which is at least for an hour. You will be able to claim this to you private health insurance.

Do I need to bring anything to the first appointment & what can I expect?

No. There isn’t anything you need to bring. During your first session you will begin with your psychotherapist going over a brief informed consent form which outlines the limits of confidentiality. After that you will have a chance to share with your psychotherapist the reason for your visit. Your psychotherapist will ask questions to help clearly understand your specific concern and discuss a potential treatment approach.

What is intimacy?

The experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable. It is a universal human need; without it we have the experience of loneliness. A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

How can I become a better partner?

  1. Develop a sense of trust. Feeling that you can both be seen, heard, understood and accepted.
  2. Recognise that physical closeness is only one expression of intimacy. Intimacy can be verbal (e.g. telling your partner why you love them or things that you love about them), and it can also be expressed by doing special things.
  3. Acknowledge each other’s need to be autonomous and to make your own decisions sometimes.
  4. Create a safe and open place where you can both express problems, doubts, fears and weaknesses without fear of rejection or punishment.
  5. Be willing to communicate. This often includes sharing feelings, needs and wants. Note: Listening to your partner’s problems does not necessarily mean you are responsible for solving them.
  6. Be open to negotiate your differences with respect and generosity. You are not going to get your own way all the time.
  7. Be aware of personal issues you bring to the relationship (sometimes called ‘baggage’), and take responsibility for these. Also be aware of the expectations you may place on others and assess how realistic they are.
  8. Regular time alone gives you space to recharge and re-balance. This will allow you to give more in your relationship in the long-run.
  9. Maintain and build a supportive network of friends outside the relationship. No single relationship will meet every need.
  10. Learn to not take things too seriously. This includes yourself, your relationship and life in general. Of course these things are all important to a healthy and happy life, but sometimes we need to take the time to relax.

Will my family or others be told?

Your family will not be told. However, in very limited circumstances where there is an immediate threat to your life or someone else’s life and disclosure to an appropriate agency is likely to reduce that threat, that agency may informed. Any such threat would be thoroughly explored between the counsellor and the client before action is taken.

This is how the rule about disclosure of private information divulged to a counsellor is interpreted by the Information and Privacy Commission of NSW: [A counsellor] may use or disclose health information without the consent of the person to lessen or prevent:

  • a serious and imminent threat to the life health or safety of any person, or
  • a serious threat to public health or public safety

Such disclosure or use must be approached with caution. Situations of serious and imminent threat will be a relatively uncommon occurrence. [The counsellor] must reasonably believe that the use or disclosure of the health information is necessary to prevent that threat. You need to carefully assess the level of risk before acting.

Will I be in counselling forever once I start?

No. Counselling usually involves between 6 and 12 sessions. On occasion, a further treatment plan of several more sessions may be recommended.